What to do and how much to expect if your partner asks you for time but never comes back?

We are all afraid of that phrase “we must give ourselves some time”, and it is because most of the time it is a very subtle way to end without us knowing very well what is happening. That’s why many of us have multiple doubts in our heads, and you ask how long do I have to wait? What if I don’t want to give myself some time? It is something very delicate that has to be taken calmly otherwise many hearts could be broken.

What does it mean for a couple to ask you for time?

When a couple tells you they want to take some time alone, or time away from you, or time to get to know themselves, it’s exactly that. Your partner has simply reached a point where he thinks he is not yet ready for a relationship and therefore, should have quality time with himself.

The reasons behind this sentence are very simple, but it does not mean that they will come back later. So, it is best to clarify things as soon as possible, so that there is not one of the two who is waiting for someone who will not return.

We can come to believe that the reason why our partner asks us for a time is because he does not love us, or has someone else. When the reality is, the reasons are much more personal than that:

• They have been together since they were very young and want to explore the world on their own.
• He is not comfortable with a relationship at the moment.
• You want to focus on your career rather than a relationship.
• It has goals and objectives outside the country.
• You want to grow personally and mature properly before you have a serious relationship.
• Seek to meet new people and expand their horizons.

There are extraordinary cases of couples who after giving each other a while, return. And it turns out that the relationship is now much better than before, since both of them are much more experienced and mature. They realize that they are kindred spirits who belonged to each other.

What can I do while taking time away from my partner?

This type of decision is only bearable for the person asking for the time. The other party is not satisfied with the decision but has no choice but to wait. And that’s exactly what hurts, waiting. Have the hope that one day our partner will return and everything will be better than before.

It is somewhat similar to grief after a breakup. We must learn to live without them, do things on our own, and try to live as well as possible. It is a process of adaptation, in which we learn from ourselves.

So, if your partner asked you for some time, don’t look at it as a bad thing. Appreciate it as a unique opportunity to get to know yourself, you did nothing wrong. So, you are free to explore the world for yourself and expand your wings.

• Learn to identify as an individual person. Have your own goals, your own dreams. So, when you are finally with someone else, you will know how to take much better.
• Expand your horizons. Meet new people, study something new, learn things about yourself that you didn’t know recently.
• Give yourself your own space. It is not good that you maintain a very close contact with your former partner, because he will not let them advance either of them.

How long should I wait for my partner asked me for a while?

This is the million-dollar question: How long should we wait to decide to advance or surpass our partner after having asked us for some time? It is something that cannot be measured exactly, since you will have to feel it for yourself. According to the actions your partner takes, and how things develop.

However, if after a few months the thing seems to continue in the same way. Or you have noticed that your partner has already left his relationship behind, it is the right time for you to continue with your life without further ado. So, it is something that you must prepare for from the first moment they ask you for some time. Learn to forget it.