Has your boyfriend or husband ever called you by his ex’s name? Well, you have to despair. These studies were conducted by psychologists and neurologists. As are Marcelo Berthier and David Rubin (professor). They detected that this may be completely normal.
Our brain is divided into two parts, the right hemisphere and the left hemisphere. While one recognizes only the faces, the other part the names.
Which explains why saying your ex’s name (in psychology) by accident can be the result of brain confusion in identifying and emitting the person’s information. So, he associates the closest thing.
However, saying my ex’s name to my girlfriend or boyfriend constantly can be a concern or a red flag.
What is misnaming?
Misnaming is a determination or word in English that means: “the confusion of names”. This is because of the following:
This confusion happens mostly because of how our brain sorts people’s information and names. Since it places them in sections where it can be very easy to get confused.
So, when it comes to calling a certain person, we are confused by the incorrect selection that our brain makes in this storage.
This can also happen because you romantically associate that person with someone else. This means that you have been very fond of it and unconsciously still have it in the storehouse of your mind. Right in the “important” section, where the current person is located.
So, you make the feeling you had for the other similar to the one you now feel for the current one. And that’s how you can get confused or say the name of a different person.
What It Means for Your Partner to Call You by Their Ex’s Name
There can be several meanings in terms of your partner calling you or telling you the name of their ex, since as explained it can be partly normal, as it can put you in a state of alert.
So, what does it mean that my boyfriend called me by his ex’s name? If you say someone else’s or your ex’s name unintentionally in an argument or couple’s fight. It was probably because he associated his past, quarrel-filled relationship with her name.
If your boyfriend tells you his ex’s name in bed, it may mean that he associates how good you were with him or her in intimacy. So, a part of him has not completely forgotten her and still has a strong affection for her.
This happens because you became very accustomed to the previous person, from all the time you spent with each other in the past. So, you may come up with your ex’s name or someone x’s without necessarily thinking about it.
In other cases, if your ex’s girlfriend has the same name as you, there’s not much you can deduct from that.
What to do if your partner calls you by their ex’s name?
Really knowing what to do if your partner calls you like their ex will be up to each perona. This will depend on how well you know her true intentions.
A basic thing you can do if your partner tells you someone else’s name is to think about and analyze “the way they told you” And “how they told you.” Look at the expressions he used when he said it and after he said it.
Once you’ve analyzed why your partner called you by their ex’s name. You can now ask him if he was confused, and what happened.
Another thing you should pay attention to is the moment when he told you. Whether they were in a normal conversation, in an argument, or in intimacy. Depending on this, you will be able to deduce whether you should start paying much more attention or talk about it honestly to your partner.
However, you should know that not all people are perfect and by default they tend to make mistakes, this must be fully accepted.
