In this world you can find millions of different relationships. Neither will be the same as the other! And yet, they must all have something in common if they want to last and be happy. Respect! If you plan for your marriage or courtship to work properly, here’s what you should always keep in mind. Learn how to encourage it here!
What and how is respect in the couple?
Since childhood, respect is one of the values that we are most taught, but graciously it is the one that many people forget the most. Do you know exactly what respect is? And above all, do you know how it should be applied in relationships?
- Respect goes far beyond simply not insulting each other: Many people confuse respect with simply speaking without insulting or shouting. But the truth is that in each of our actions or thoughts, we are demonstrating respect towards the people around us. An example of respect is:
- Take into account our partner in all the decisions to be made.
- Do not denigrate or belittle your participation in the relationship.
- Do not hide things or deceive.
- Give him the position he deserves in front of his family and friends.
- Treat each other as equals, no one is better than the other.
- Have empathy and accept each other’s differences.
- Know how to calmly and lovingly carry the mistakes of both.
- It is something that can be reinforced: If you think your relationship will be perfect at all times, you’re wrong. For a relationship to be healthy, it takes a lot of effort and dedication. Mold the bad attitudes of both, and work so that the two are a better couple.
- It must be at all times: Does your partner seem to be someone else when he gets angry? Well, talk about it at a time when it is calm. Respect, affection and love are not things that are left aside when we are angry. On the contrary! It is when we must make use of them the most.
- Base every decision, action or reaction on him: What is more important, your partner or the fights? It is a very important question that you must ask yourself so as not to reach unwanted extremes and then find yourself doing or saying things that you will regret as well.
My partner insults me, what to do to avoid it?
Never accept this kind of behavior! It’s not normal, it’s not healthy, and it’s not something that should be allowed. Always keep in mind that bad times only attract many more bad moments, so if you really want your relationship to work, correct this immediately.
- Don’t let it even the first time: Were you surprised by their reaction and choice of words? It’s best to end the conversation right away and leave. At this point it is best to be alone for a few hours and even a day. Then, when they are calmer, tell them clearly that such attitudes cannot be repeated.
- Evaluate their reactions: If the world were a fairy tale, your partner would learn to improve from the first time, but it won’t. You can expect answers like:
- I am like that.
- It’s not serious, it’s just things of the moment.
- Excuse me, I lose my temper.
- If you don’t like it you can leave.
- It’s been your fault for bothering me.
One answer may be worse than the other, but be sure to identify an answer that’s just an excuse to do again. Stand firm and let him know that if he doesn’t change those kinds of attitudes, he may lose you forever! And in case that is the outcome, it will be the best for you even if it hurts.
Toxic or dangerous behaviors to avoid in your relationship
At the beginning of a relationship everything is peace and harmony, we are focused on passion and desire, and we do not realize that we do not really know at all the person next to us. Do you want to know if your guy is actually good for you? Well, avoid this type of attitude:
- Insults when he gets angry.
- When arguing he becomes violent and aggressive.
- Every day a is more possessive.
- Try checking your phone.
- Feel jealous of your best friends.
- It doesn’t give you your own space.
