All heads are one world. You never know how a person will react to a problem or conflict! Especially when it comes to couple conflicts, which include many mixed feelings and strong emotions. Does your partner stop talking to you after each lawsuit and you don’t know how to react? I’m probably applying the law of ice to you, learn how to deal with it.
What is the law of ice?
The law of ice is a very old and well-known technique, applied especially to let a person know that we are terribly angry with him. Most of the time the ice law applies when we want to end a discussion immediately.
Surely you will already be familiar with it, thanks to the fact that your partner is applying it to you. But you should know that this is not an adult reaction, and if your partner has been doing it is a clear sign of immaturity on their part. An argument should never end that way, and it’s also not healthy for either of you to be taking those kinds of attitudes.
More specifically, the ice law is a typical attitude of spoiled or tantrum-throwing children. You can notice it in a group of infants who, when arguing with each other, stop talking to each other for long periods of time. It is very common among them, because they simply do not know yet how to react properly!
This means that if your partner has been applying the law of ice to you, it is because he has been having childish attitudes that must be changed immediately. No one can allow themselves to be treated that way, much less when it comes to a couple conflict which must be resolved as soon as possible.
What to do if my partner applies the ice law to me when we argue?
When they are in the middle of an argument and your partner decides to apply the law of ice to you during or after it, at that moment there will not be much you can do. Unfortunately, you’ll have to wait for him to stop this attitude (no matter how long it takes) so you can have a more serious conversation with him.
The first thing will be to express your disagreement with that reaction. Express clearly that you cannot be having that type of attitude since that does not show maturity on your part but only a childish and little committed behavior. If he is willing to change, open and delicate communication may suffice.
Otherwise, it becomes defensive again, you will have to take other more rigorous measures in this regard. You can try to give him an ultimatum, to see if he reacts or decides to continue acting in the same way. It is prudent to clarify that this type of attitude only brings negative consequences such as:
- A lot of resentment is generated between the two.
- Problems never revolt.
- Fights continue daily.
- Communication is being lost and will become increasingly scarce.
- The relationship will cool little by little.
- They will no longer feel the mutual support they had.
Never pay with the same coin! Remember that if your partner is failing at something, you should be the strongest pillar in the relationship until things can level out again. If you choose to put yourself at the same height, it will be condemning the relationship, because it will be a relationship of two immature people who do not know how to face difficult situations.
Therefore, if you really want your relationship to improve and change, you must be patient with your partner. And in case you don’t see any interest in it in changing, it will be your decision whether you stay with an immature person or decide to spread your wings.
Is the law of ice good?
Definitely, the law of ice is one of the most damaging attitudes to relationships. Since the moment one of the two begins to apply it, everything else falls apart. Without proper communication, there is not enough trust, and without trust come jealousy and conflicts and therefore, sooner or later love is lost.
So, the most prudent thing you should do now, is to try to make your partner come to reason so that he does not continue to have this type of attitude and can save his relationship.
