Throughout our lives, we will be involved with many loving partners. Each of them will leave us teachings, learnings and in the worst case, traumas.
Retrospective jealousy and Rebecca syndrome can develop thanks to various failed love relationships or by couples who had many love experiences in the past. If you think you suffer from this, stay with us and learn how to overcome it!
What is Rebecca Syndrome? Similarities to retrospective or retroactive jealousy
We all know and have experienced jealousy at some point in our lives. However, when this jealousy goes beyond the conventional (that is, jealousy for previous situations or partners) the existence of rebecca syndrome is considered.
This syndrome is much more common than you think. And it has a lot of similarity to retrospective jealousy or retroactive jealousy. Despite this, basic jealousy is not considered as a psychological pathology.
Contrary to pathological jealousy, where the behavior of the couple is obsessive and recurrent. In most cases there is no reason why the couple should feel jealous. Rather, the very idea that her partner has a sexual or love past makes her insecure and full of jealousy.
Many times, the rebecca syndrome is developed and promoted by thoughts like: My boyfriend’s ex is prettier than me. And from there, imbalances in the relationship appear.
In addition, this jealousy is greatly aggravated when on the part of the couple, he remembers his ex as a person of many virtues. And he constantly clarifies that his ex is someone very attractive, intelligent, sensual … among other qualities. Each and every one of them causes the current couple to feel dull or insufficient.
As a result, the development of depressive attitudes, decreases self-love, and therefore, the couple relationship is negatively affected.
How to stop being insecure and overcome jealousy
The term emotional insecurity encompasses many levels. Since it can be a simple aesthetic insecurity, to a complete insecurity of the self. And it is at this point that people suffering from rebecca syndrome can arrive.
Therefore, it is crucial that preventive measures and treatments are taken to reduce personal insecurity, as a couple and increase self-esteem and self-love.
Recognize the meaning of things
All retroactive, retrospective jealousy or rebecca syndrome is completely irrational. Therefore, the person suffering from jealousy must recognize that both had a loving past, and that cannot affect present relationships.
Treat yourself
When we suffer from insecurities, especially jealousy, treating ourselves will go a long way in increasing self-esteem and self-love. That is, exercise, buy new clothes, make a change of look. Whatever you need to make you feel better about yourself.
Focus on the present
We must know that all jealousy is unfounded by situations that happened long before us. Back then your partner didn’t know you, and therefore nothing he did was aimed at hurting you. So, you shouldn’t focus on what happened before you.
Communicate your insecurities to your partner
Communication between both parties is crucial so that this Rebecca syndrome can be overcome. Since by communicating any hint of jealousy or comparison between you and other relationships, any misunderstandings can be resolved and clarified.
How to overcome my partner’s past
Many people, both men and women, often have problems with their partners’ past. Especially if they had numerous relationships in the past, or a very significant relationship.
To overcome the past of our partner, it will be ideal that we focus especially on the present. Since none of the old situations happened while their relationship was in force. Therefore, it would be jealousy for no reason.
Therefore, we cannot blame our partner for having had other romantic relationships before we have met. Since it is something that everyone has, and it is not a reason to be judged or judged.
